You cannot fool me. I know you talk to yourself on a daily basis. Don’t worry, it’s completely normal to interact with your conscious mind. My challenging question to you is, are you saying the right things to yourself? How you talk to yourself ultimately defines the person that you are. According to Ph.D. Shad Helmstetter, over 77% of what we think is negative. We developed that negative mindset from our environment. Some people had a worse environment than others but most of the time we are thinking negative.
I have not had the ability to study the intricacies of the human brain and how humans think. One of my passions is to develop a basic understanding of how we think. I like reiterating things from my own paradigm, so you may or may not like what I have to say. I believe everyone comprehends differently so my goal is to help you understand from my point of view.
What is flowing through your thoughts? Are you a positive thinker or do you tend to lean towards the negative in life? I commend you if you are able to stay positive all the time. That is an unheard of gift. If you are anything like me you are an emotional roller coaster. I am able to hide my negative emotions from the outside world. This helps me continue my relationships and sanity on a daily basis.
Until not too long ago I used to beat myself up because I was a negative thinker. I never knew the importance of talking positive to myself until I heard Shad speak about the power of it. Like many of you I would tell myself all of my worst qualities and I would punish myself internally for my failures. If you are struggling with this currently you are not alone.
How do you start to dilute the negative and start to speak to your self with more positivity? First you need to understand that there is always going to be negative. I heard this once about negative, “Weeds are unpredictable, they pop up from nothing. If you do nothing to prevent them they will grow so rapidly they will cover everything. You need to manage the weeds in your life even if it seems overbearing. It’s when you start to see the flowers that you know it was all worth it. Flowers can only grow without weeds, the question is when are you going to start picking the weeds?”
Understanding that you will have to manage the negative in your life with positive thoughts is going to be crucial to you. It took me many months to learn how to start talking right. I would catch myself saying something bad to myself when something negative happened. I was only fueling the negative fire within me. It is only when I learned to talk positive about my negative situations that I started to feel good with myself. Your subconscious remembers everything you say and do. I think our subconscious mind is the only reason we fear doing things.
For instance: I told myself over and over again that I was not a good speaker and I hated speaking in front of people. I spoke it for 18 years to myself and all of that piled up into my subconscious mind. Whenever I had to speak in front of people I would immediately get scared and I would feel sick to my stomach. It is because my subconscious mind was reminding me of everything I said to myself about speaking out loud. Many of you are probably in the same boat with other things in life. If anything I want you to take away the idea that you are able to change how you think by what you tell yourself.
The only time it is too late to better yourself is when you are dead. There should never be a moment in your life that you stop bettering your situation. Positivity alone will not get you there but believe me it has changed how I look at the world. There is so much good within all of us, it is just a matter of pulling out the weeds and planting more flowers. Go out after reading this post with the intention of speaking better to yourself. You will find out very quickly that once you are positive to yourself you start to attract a positive environment.