Happiness can be expressed in multiple ways. Shedding tears when you see a loved one after a long time apart. Becoming shy when someone you like starts talking to you. It may even be a hysterical laugh with a group of friends during a late night out.

I live each day of my life happy. Sure, I get upset and express other emotions from time to time but even in that moment I know I am happy. I don’t know if I am lucky that God made me that way or if there is a more scientific reason behind my happiness. I will tell you this: I am realistic. I know there are millions of people who are currently struggling to feel happy. It breaks my heart knowing some people go through their whole day without smiling or laughing.

I want to reach out to those of you struggling with happiness. I want to share with you the top 5 things I do to ensure my continued happiness. I hope you are willing to dedicate your focus on these 5 things because they will change you over time. Change is scary but necessary for a happier life.  

For those of you who don’t struggle with this, you are probably wondering why you should read this post. My first reason is that it will remind you that you are already ahead of the game. Never forget that you have the power of happiness within you at every moment. It is only when you harness that power and release it to the world that you will start to make a serious impact. 

Let me share with you the 5 things that could guarantee your happiness:

Progress Through Your Life

I heard the following on an audio seminar Tony Robbins produced and I will never forget it. Someone asked him what the true meaning of happiness was. In that split second he changed the lives of his audience and listeners. His one word answer was “progress.”

Think about most of the things you are doing in your life right now. If they are not making you happy it’s because you are not progressing forward with them. If you are struggling with your progress maybe you need some correction in the two areas below. 

Focus: What you focus on is what will get done. Most of us are too focused on the wrong areas and that is why we are stuck in the same place year after year. If you really focus on the things you need to do, you will feel more happy in the long run. 

Questions: Your driving factor that controls your focus are the questions you ask yourself about your life. These are not everyday questions that you converse with others. These are questions that control your inner being. Examples of these questions revolve around money, time, family, health, spiritual, business, happiness, etc. These questions are how you define and live your life. If you want to increase your focus you need to ask yourself better questions!

Be Authentic And Always Try Your Best

Never think that you need to act like someone you are not. I know it can be hard but you will be judged no matter your background, creed, race, appearance, even your religious beliefs. I never had a problem with this because, as much as I care about people, I never cared what they thought about me. I love it when people love and care about me but I do not let any of it impact how I live.

If you are thinking you’re not good enough, you need to break through that thought. Create a new question and focus on how you are good enough. If you suffer from being shy or you have social anxiety. Start small but know that you will change and it will get better!  

Connect With Others And Encourage Them

The greatest thing we can do in life is connect and help another human being. I have spoke about this before. Your ability to help others is so special. When you connect with someone you make them feel important. And when you encourage them you make them feel invincible. 

If more people encouraged others I truly believe more people would try harder to achieve their dreams. Most of the time people hurt or criticize others (most of the time behind their backs) which leads to social issues and more dead dreams. Let’s challenge ourselves to boost others up with a few encouraging words. Also, let’s make more connections. The more people you know the happier you will feel! 

Positive Self Talk

If you know me at all this is my biggest believe. Without a shadow of a doubt I can tell where you are in life by the things you are saying to yourself! Do you know how hurtful it is to say negative or criticizing things to yourself? 

Before we are 18 years of age we are told the word “no” more than 148,000 times! This statistic is staggering. This sticks with you until you dilute it out. This is why I talk to myself on a daily basis. A few great things to say to yourself would be:

“I am happy because I am trying my best to better myself and help other people around me.”

“I love you. I am the most important person I know and I will help impact the world each and every day.”

These are examples of what you could say to yourself! Yes, talk to yourself in your head but don’t feel weird to do it out loud. It’s actually the best thing you can do if you want to start feeling happier! 

Focus On The Positive

This is so simple – well maybe not to most of you – but this is the final thing I do to stay happy. Remember that your progress in life requires an intense focus. This is more of a general rule you need to be aware of for your whole day. Bad things and good things will happen to you each and every day. 

Each situation will have a different outcome. Sometimes we make the outcome even worse by reacting negatively and getting angry. I am recommending that you take both angles but focus on the positive rather than the negative. You will react much better and over time this will help your stress levels and will boost your happiness tenfold. 

Remember, you are in control of everything in your life. If I can be happy, and trust me my life is nothing special, I know you can be happy! Some of you will have to work harder than others but that will make you stronger over time! Get up and get motivated to do the things that will make you happier! It will benefit all of us in the end. 

There are a lot of great resources out there to help you over come your happiness obstacles. I recommend The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson because he will connect the importance of these small habits into living a happier life. If you would like to support this blog please purchase a copy of The Slight Edge from our Amazon link! You will benefit from reading this book! Thank you. 


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About Vance Mattila

Vance Mattila is the creator of The Inspiration Mentor. He loves helping people succeed by provided them with motivational content. You can enjoy his many articles about success, finances, entrepreneurship and life lessons. Let him know which posts are your favorite!

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